Women who were later pregnant were "involved in a sisterhood through a club that nobody wanted to be part of," said one woman.
We also talked with young women who felt desperate, loneliness, fear and misleading. One of them said that she could not get pregnant because of different health conditions, including missed periods. Then, when she did, she involuntarily visited the center of pregnancy on the basis of faith, hoping to get an abortion. They told her that she was not as far away as she was, which made it difficult to get an abortion elsewhere.
Since many states impose gestational age restrictions on abortion and refuse an insurance coverage for termination of pregnancy, women who make abortions later in their pregnancies have several options. Often, they need to travel, adding to the cost, which can be an overly expensive procedure.
One woman said she feels a punishment – again – for her son's loss every time she makes a monthly loan payment of a thousand She borrowed dollars to interrupt him. It was a decision she felt she had no choice but to do; A kid in the stomach is absent in many organs and never would have survived.
Some women insist on the name, refusing to conceal. Others want to use only the first names or pseudonyms, fearing a negative reaction at a time when people seem to be more hated than they are listening.
But, sharing their stories, these women – some of them mentioned above, others – the hope is a topic that is hotly debated and, they say, seriously misunderstood.
She had to choose how her daughter would die
people Asked how many children she has, Dan Weinstein tells them that she has three live children. This is because the daughter she lost 9.5 years ago remains part of it.
] She was happily married, having 2-year-old boy and happy again pregnant. She read stories and wrote a magazine to her child, and she enjoyed her son rolling their toy cars over her growing abdomen. Since she was 35 and older, she said, her care included additional sonograms later in her pregnancy.
When she and her husband entered one for 29 weeks, they were told that the ventricles, or a network of cavities, in the brain of the baby, were larger than usual, she said. The doctor and technician said they were not "overly large," Weinstein said, so she did not care. They could figure out what this would be, motivating her and her husband. In addition, everything else about the baby was perfect.
However, she was sent to the Children's National in Washington DC for further testing. Weinstein, who lives in Rockville, Maryland, was at 31 weeks, well in her third trimester when they got their appointment.
There are severe words spells for the anomalies of the brain that their children have had: agenesis of the corpus callosum and poly-microgriii. In simpler terms, as described by Weinstein, a special MRI showed that the child has no part of the brain that has a right and left hemisphere. And where the healthy brain is "like a cauliflower," she said, the child's brain had concave areas and "empty pockets"
"What does this mean? What does this mean?" She asked before they went to the experts who could explain.
Doctors have been expecting that their baby will not be able to suck or swallow, said Weinstein. They said that she would most likely be suffering from uncontrolled confiscations after birth, and because of this would be the necessary reanimation order. As long as she lived, physicians predicted that their baby would need medical intervention. Her questions quickly approached. Unable to rehabilitate help? What should I do if they took stem cells from the umbilical cord blood of her son, which she imposed? Perhaps they could revive what her daughter needs?
The brain of their child was appointed in this way from the outset, experts say. It could not have been detected earlier and will not improve. They could never see what was happening. Several doctors, whom she researched looking for hope, told her the same.
"It's just an accident," said Weinstein. "Basically, anyone who could get pregnant may be such an accident."
They heard that it was related to resuscitation. They listened what life, short-lived or otherwise would look like. They were informed about the help at the hospice.
At first, nobody talked about the possibility of abortion in this late pregnancy period. Weinstein believes this was partly because a doctor with whom the past hospital was referring to rare patients such as her, Dr. George Tiller of Wichita, Kansas, was killed by extreme weeks earlier than anti-abortion. The baby is still six weeks old and delivered, told her. But it prolonged the nightmare in which she lived, she said, in which they had to choose how their daughter would die. She worried about what their choice would make for their son, their seven, their marriage.
" In Texas, you are forbidden to do abortions after 20 weeks, "said a woman in the clinic. – You must have a baby.
A woman asked if she wants to have ultrasound images. Catherine said she had not done so. The woman still gave her. As soon as she returned home, she threw them away and sobbed.
Then she turned out to be crazy. She went online for research, where she could go, and found only two options. She called to a clinic in New Mexico who handed her a sister to a Texas clinic for an exam. This clinic confirmed how far she was and heard her request. They could not give her what she wanted, but called her in New Mexico.
They are "ready to help you", she remembered the hearing. "But it will cost you $ 12,000."
Considering how far it was now, its appointment was quickly put on schedule. She only had three days to find money, she said.
She worked on phones and shot letters. With the help of a network of abortion funds that support women who can not afford such procedures, Katherine said she raised $ 9,000. Вона попросила клініку в Нью-Мексико все-таки взяти її.
"Мої пацієнти всіх вікових категорій мають таку спільність: незалежно від їхньої історії, вони прийшли до рішення, що аборт абсолютно необхідний для збереження свого психічного або фізичного здоров'я та / або для збереження їх ненародженої дитини від життя страждань, – написав лікар по електронній пошті.
Кетрін була в нервовому тумані, коли вона йшла в двері клініки. Вона не згадувала ін'єкцію, що зупинила серцебиття плода. Вона також не могла назвати ліки, які їй дали, але вона точно згадала спазми, які пізніше захопили її тіло готелі. Тільки після того, як вона зрозуміла, що вона пішла на роботу.
"Я була в болю, яку ви не можете собі уявити. Я хотів померти", сказала вона. "З цим болем, я дійсно жалкував про те, що я робив аборт."
Але це жаль було недовго. Через два дні, коли вона "народила мертвий плід" у клініці, вона сказала, що її переймали сльози полегшення.
"Дякуємо, що змінили моє майбутнє", – згадувала вона.
Кетрін, яка до цього дня ніколи не розповідала своєму другові або члену сім'ї про її аборт, знає, що деякі люди можуть прочитати її розповідь і подумати про її найгірше. Але це її тіло, її життя, і вона знала, що вона може – і не могла – впоратися, сказала вона. Вона здивована протестом проти абортів. Вона думає про всіх дітей у Сполучених Штатах і в інших місцях, які не мають люблячих будинків і їм не дають чесних шансів.
"Ви хочете, щоб у дитячих будинках було більше дітей?" – запитує вона. – Ти хочеш більше дітей на вулиці?
Вона з нетерпінням чекає, коли-небудь стане матір'ю, наполягає вона. Але вона зробить це з партнером, коли вона буде старшою, може бути, 30, коли вона стане жінкою, яку вона планує бути.