Dear Abby: My husband, Joe, and I was married 45 years and he chases me! I asked him to countless times to use the best skills on the table, speak English and treat others with respect. I do not ask for perfection. I know I'm not perfect, but if someone pointed out that I was doing wrong or that someone was embarrassed, I would change what I was doing.
In addition to asking me what I always do, so as not to humiliate Joe, what can I do? It's hard to ignore! – NIGHT OF CHANGE IN NEW YORK
THE ROAD OF Nothing: After 45 years you had to come to the realization that you can not change another person. For the sake of reason, learn to change the way to respond to bad manners of a man's table and bad English. Because he is a leisurely eater, he believes that he is eating less with him. Because his grammar is not in the first place, try to remember that you married him in this way, and he was able to get the words "I do" well enough to satisfy the judge.
Regarding his disrespect for other people, the next time this happens, do not ask him to break it, tell him [1
Approximately a month after the wedding, I received a postcard announcing that she married, saying that she and her husband are trying to buy a house and gift cards to start their new life, will be appreciated. Abby, is it not that someone asked for gifts when they did not have a wedding and did not tell anyone about their avoidance, then? Several of my friends fled, and I have never been asked to send a gift. Was this rude, or is it a normal behavior for people who do not have a wedding? NORMAL OR NOT? In COLORADO
ROAD OR N: This is not a normal behavior. This is a passion for the gift, and you are not obliged to send this couple anything beyond your good wishes. Requesting gifts is a serious violation of the etiquette. If you turned to her and asked if there was anything necessary, that would be appropriate.
Dear ABBI: I'm in the 6th grade. My best friend hates a girl in our class. She cleaned up the toilet, fastened her house, placed signs on it, threw the eggs on her family car and dumped the shampoo into the mailbox. I am very uncomfortable with what she did. But she is pleasing to me. What should I do? – FRIENDSHIP IN THE NORTH CALIFORNIA
THE QUESTION OF THE GIRL PAL: While your friend may not like a classmate, she has no right to damage the property of the family. What she did is called vandalism, and this is against the law. What makes you uncomfortable shows that you have a conscience. If you're smart – and I think you're spending less time with it. I say this because a person similar to her can easily turn to you. Contact Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, California 90069.