Road to Amy: I am in my 60s and I know "Sue" for over 40 years.
For many years, Sue has made some negative comments about some of my posts on Facebook. For example, once I published that I was sick. She called me to ask why I would put such a thing on the FB. Another participant is a joke that, in her opinion, was not funny.
In the end, I changed the privacy setting so that she did not see my posts. In the past few months, she criticized several of my comments to others in this group.
None of these comments had anything to do with her. In one, I sympathized with a friend of graduates who spoke about his shamefulness, noting that my son was also shameful. I did not provide other details. Sue exclaimed for "torturing me" about my son.
Sue refused to stop reading lectures to me, and I ended up telling her that I was angry about her intervention and criticism.
I have never told Sue ̵
I understand that Facebook is not private, but are there any rules for criticizing the messages of others?
Dear One Less: The rules governing Facebook are the same rules that govern the entire human exchange: understand that everything you say can and will be used against you in the public court (or
Picture of your FB graduate group, as if you were all together at the cocktail. Will you sympathize with a friend about his shame and recall your son's similar challenges to the group? You, maybe you would like.
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In this context, "Sue" will punish you against others (or at all) regarding your benign choice to share?
Social media can contribute to the sweet and merciful goodness – to inspire people to be courageous in exchange and support in their responses.Social media also encourages people to be haughty, disgusting, and fighting.
A wise person is as restrained and knowledgeable in social networks as in real life.
And then there is "Sue". will not leave you alone and now you are no longer "friends" – in real life or on the Internet.
If you decide to criticize her, do it privately.
Dear Amy: Mobile phones allow us to make phone calls from any room in the house
Although we have three bedrooms, two bathrooms, a kitchen, a bed and a living room-dining room, my husband without asking, if I keep in mind, making personal phone calls in my presence. When he does, I can not watch the TV, make my own phone calls, anything.
I'm really not interested in hearing one side of his phone calls (or both). I asked him to call me. It's just easier to get a phone in another room than to take a TV in another room.
Am I wrong that I do not like it? Is there anything I can say to convince him to call in another room?
– You do not want to hear her
Dear you do not want: Reception of calls in the presence of others is one thing. (When it's done, politely say, "Oh, this is Kevin's job, do not you mind if I take it?") Then you take your phone to a quiet place where you can concentrate on the call rather than worry.
There is no justification for calling other people, of course, in a large house where there are many places to sit. It. Simply.
It is also difficult to focus on a telephone conversation, where there are other noisy distractions. So why does your husband do this in front of the TV?
If your husband decides to call when you are both in the television room, first ask him: "Hey, dear, can you do it in another room? ? "If he refuses, you would justify the appearance of sound on the television so that you can continue to hear it.
The Road of the Amy: You gave the "entangled" idea of how to divide family things after her death.
I went through this and decided that all this: things. I will not allow someone else's greed and so on.
You never see U-Haul after a cataract.
Road Ann: Wise.
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